Returning to work after maternity leave is not easy. I am 6 weeks back at my job and I know it is hard – I’m experiencing it everyday. Whether you’ve been away for a few weeks or a few months, it’s a huge adjustment. You now need to balance your career, your new role as a mom, your home, and everything in between. If you’re like me, you might feel overwhelmed; but here’s a gentle reminder for you: You’ve got this!
Here are some things to keep in mind that have helped me as I’ve settled back into the rhythm of work and motherhood:
1. Take It One Day at a Time
We know as moms that things are always changing but Adjusting to a new routine can feel like a lot. Some days will be great, and others will feel impossible. That’s okay (and normal!). Take each day as it comes and give yourself a pat on the back. It’s completely normal to have a mix of emotions. Allow yourself to feel them without judgment, knowing that it’s part of the journey.
2. It’s Okay to Ask for Help
Whether it’s from your partner, family, friends, or your work bestie, asking for help doesn’t make you any less capable. You’re navigating uncharted waters, and having a support system can make all the difference. Don’t hesitate to reach out when you need a hand. For me, this meant asking my partner to ‘speed clean’ with me for 15 minutes after my son goes to sleep. It’s long enough to feel like we made a dent in house care but short enough to not feel overwhelming.
3. You Are Doing Your Best, and That’s Enough
You might feel pressure to be “perfect” in every role. But remember: You don’t have to do everything flawlessly. You’re learning, adjusting, and giving it your all. And that’s more than enough. Your best is enough. Prioritize the most important things and set boundaries. The first weekend after I went back to work was rough for me and I had to set boundaries – my parents and my in laws wanted to come see my son but I had to say no. All I wanted to do was be selfish and spend every moment with my son without anyone else around. Everyone understood and gave me the space.
4. It’s Okay to Feel Like You’re Struggling
Returning to work is a major transition. It’s natural to have moments when you feel exhausted, guilty, or anxious. You’re still adjusting to a new version of your life, and it’s okay to not have it all figured out immediately. Over time, things will start to feel more balanced.
5. Celebrate the Small Wins
Don’t forget to celebrate your wins, no matter how small they might seem. Whether it’s getting through a full day at work, making time for exercise/self-care, or even just avoiding spit-up on your outfit in the morning , each small victory is worth acknowledging.
6. You Are Stronger Than You Think
Think about everything you’ve already accomplished. You brought a baby into the world. You are already a superwoman. The fact that you are balancing work and motherhood is proof of your strength. You may not always feel strong, but trust that you are.
7. Let Go of “Perfection”
You don’t need to be the perfect mom, the perfect employee, or the perfect partner. Actually you really won’t be perfect (sorry to burst that bubble for you). Perfection is a myth, and striving for it will only leave you feeling exhausted or disappointed in yourself. Instead, embrace the beauty in imperfection and have fun with it. Your child and partner will see you as perfect just the way you are.
8. Remember Why You’re Doing This
The work you are doing matters. Your career, your ambitions, and your personal fulfillment are important. The moments with your baby and family are important. Balancing both of these important roles is such a challenge, but you can make it work. For me, it helps to remind myself that “I am working to provide a great life for my son.”
You Are Doing Amazing
There will ups and downs. Remind yourself that you are enough, and you are capable of doing this. You are doing a great job balancing everything. Embrace your journey, take each day as it comes, and know that you’re not alone. Also, enjoy those baby snuggles whenever you can sneak them in!
xoxo, LL
Little Libbie 
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